I cannot begin to tell you how many women need to read the prior Date Doctor post. When I was out in Sin City this weekend, all of the advice that I gave was reaffirmed. After the after-after party, me and some very new friends had a very early breakfast. Picture this: one man surrounded by 3 women. He proceeded to ask the ladies if they had seen any attractive men (I was excluded—I guess married women go blind after jumping the broom), and they couldn’t give a straight answer. I heard:

“No one focused on me.”
“You mean attractive or marriage-attractive?
“What do you mean by attractive?”

After about 30 minutes of these types of questions with no real answer, our male host was so not into his female guests. Finally, about 45 minutes into it, he finally received an answer, to which he replied: “You could have said that about 45 minutes ago. Why must every thing a man asks a woman be a debate?”

So, instead of waiting a week or two, here is an IMMEDIATE update for my ladies:

1. Don’t complicate a simple question. For example, when asked by a man, “What color is the sky?,” men expect to hear, “Blue,” not “Blue with a hint of amber and teal.” Keep it very simple, please.

2. Most men stop listening to you after the first 2 or 3 sentences if they realize that you are rambling and ranting (read vignette below). They can easily detect a rambler…

3. Shut up and listen! I happened to run across our host the next day and his major complaint was that the women were not listening to him and they wouldn’t stop talking. They kept repeating the same concepts over and over again, but in a different way each time. Believe me, I could immediately discern that he stopped listening after the first two or three sentences….

4. This is an age old adage, but it’s definitely true: You never get a second chance to make a first impression. After this disastrous meeting and the oversaturation of female angst, I happened to catch up with our male host the very next day and he told me that when he later saw one of the other female guests, he literally tried to run in the other direction. But, he had already made eye contact and had to at least greet her…at which point, she then
tried to recover from the prior disaster but made it worse by trying to explain herself–all he heard was WONK-WONK-WONK (think Charlie Brown’s teacher). If she EVER had a chance with this dude, it was now most certainly over….

5. Basically, ladies, stop overthinking simple chit chat–that’s how men weed you out. Upgrade your conversation skills and instead of reliving your awful romances through venting, start with something fresh and new. WE CAN DO IT!