In light of our esteemed guest blogger Trina coming to dish out love and life advice, I thought it would a great time for a visit from the Date Doctor. Although the term “happily single” may sound like an oxymoron in its truest sense, it can be a wonderful thing to be single. Before I unwittingly jumped the broom, I had a fabulous and fantastic single life…and so did my hubby. When you are alone either by choice or by force, it forces you to spend some time developing YOU. Sometimes, our individual selves get lost and caught up in the throes of a relationship. And, believe it or not, you need have some semblance of a self identity before you even set your thoughts on marriage…or for the marriage naysayers—long term commitment. You will relish this advice later…
In order to be “Happily Single,” I suggest you try some or all of the following:
1. Develop a personality, if you don’t possess one at the present time. We, ladies especially, often end up morphing into the person that we think that our significant other will appreciate and love. He/she dated you because of your original self–regardless of what you thought it was. Also, if you find that you aren’t attracting the type of person that you THINK you like, do a self assessment on your character traits…or ask some friends who will be brutally honest with you. All of us have bland, corny, arrogant, conceited, over talkative, etc,etc, etc….then again, if you don’t have any friends that fit in that category, it may just be you…
2. Figure out what you want out of life, i.e. create some goals! You have to be headed somewhere in life, and if you have no clue, your life will certainly be aimless. You have no one to blame but yourself when you hit the big 5-0 and have an empty, meaningless, regret-filled life. Although you may find it extremely hard to imagine, you are the captain of your own destiny.
3. Develop some personal tastes that are timeless. In other words, select and develop a refined and cultured skill such as wine tasting, proper dinner etiquette, being a perfect host, etc. Some skills are useful in any situation.
4. Polish your professional and personal look. You can do one of two things: create your own personal style and build a wardrobe around that style OR be a style chameleon (like me!!!) and create different looks for different moods, occasions, or settings. Either way, you’ll be known for your distinctive style/
5. Get a life! Stop mimicking others and be resolved to living someone else’s life. At the end of the day, you have to look yourself in the mirror and be honest about what you need. Even though I absolutely adore Jada Pinkett Smith, I wouldn’t trade her lifestyle for mine in a minute…I love my chaos, my kids, and my crazy hubby!
Take these tips and stride and learn how to be “Happily Single.” If you incorporate them into your lives, you won’t be single for long….
Keep it strictly stylish!
Great list!
One other thing to consider is a Singelringen.
I wear one. It looks great, turquoise acrylic over sterling silver. Singelringen means “the single ring” in Swedish. It means I am just fine on my own and at the same time it is a status ring that says I am single so obviously I am open to possibilities.
This is such a great post!