There are millions of people in major cities such as NY, DC, and Miami. At any given moment, one can walk onto the street and find hundreds of people of all heights, shapes, and nationalities. If that is the case, then why are there millions of single people in these metropolitan areas? This is a question that’s rather hard to answer, but the following are a few tips on how to be a successful dater in major cities:
1) Know what you want- No one knows you better than you. No one knows your wants, needs, goals and values better than you do. Many women say that they want to find Mr. Right, but Mr. Right is subjective. Mr. Right is based on your individual wants, needs, goals and values. Before someone else can be what you need them to be, you must first know what it is that you need! Take out a pen and paper. Make categories indicating your “Goals,” “Values,” “Needs,” and “Wants.” Fill in these categories. Once you know what you want, you’ll be able to identify it when it arrives. It’s analogous to going to a major department store and shopping for a dress without having any clue as to what size and style you want. Dating is a lot simpler when we know what qualities we’re looking for. In major metropolitan cities, you are bound to meet a lot of people, but you can narrow down your options by being sure of what you want.
2) Get out there, and have some fun!- It is highly unlikely that the man of your dreams is going to ring your door bell or knock on your door (although, that could happen if he works for Fed-Ex), but 99% of the time, you will not meet the man of your dreams if you’re a couch potato! The advantage of living in or near a large metropolitan city is that there are tons of things to do every day of the week. You can join a gym, enroll in kick-boxing classes, take dance lessons, visit a museum, sign up for a foreign language class, show off your talents at karaoke night, take an art class, or even a cooking class. It really doesn’t matter what the activity is, as long as you get out there and have fun!
3) Make time for yourself- I always tell my single girlfriends that no one can “make” you happy. You must first be happy with yourself, and then others will be drawn to you. If you’re not happy with yourself, you will not carry yourself in a manner that will attract the man of your dreams. Set aside time for yourself every single day and engage in something that makes you genuinely happy. This could be listening to your favorite song, drinking your favorite cup of herbal tea or spending a couple extra minutes making sure your make-up application is just right. Think and reflect on who you are and who you want to be, and take affirmative steps towards achieving those things. Once you are happy with who you are, you will exude confidence, and confidence is contagious.
Some think that it’s super easy to meet the right person when you’re in a major city, but, truth is, it may be harder because you have to sort through the bunch to find the right one. However, if you know what you want, if you have some fun, and if you make time for yourself, the search will seem effortless because in doing all of these things, the focus is on the most important person- you!
Keep it strictly fab!
